Ideal Marriage: Is the Ideal Spouse the same in different cultures?

In this advanced technological culture of people in marriages,  being the ideal spouse  sets a high standard for amazing communication skills and unconditional love for the partner. When it comes to reciting ideal traits, the list can be endless, however the following personal traits apply to being / having an ideal spouse. The following are three universal traits an ideal spouse would have that spans across different cultures.

1.       The ideal spouse loves their partner. This unconditional love stems from the very beginning and has grown over time and with experiences. Love has varies meanings in the context of a marriage. For instance, showing affection and using terms of endearment, even when one is frustrated or upset with each other. Letting go of anything negative (words and actions) that has occurred because of an argument or event, and really wanting the spouse to be happy and content with life’s biggest challenges and rewards. This love from the ideal spouse is always apparent and  loyalty to the partner is never compromised.

 

2.       The ideal spouse supports their partner and their life. This perspective of support is acknowledging the role of their partner and helping them get to their desirable role in life and working with them to maintain a sense of normalcy and teamwork amongst each other. If the wife has chosen to pursue a career and/or have children, the ideal husband supports that decision (s) and assists in areas of their life to make that function together. A great example, is taking the initiative in making sure their home and children (if any) are tended to and taken care of, vehicles are maintained, bills are paid, birthdays and anniversaries are remembered and family moments are celebrated.  In essence, their life together is constructed and maintained together with shared responsibility and recognizing their partner’s contribution to their life together and showing great appreciation.

 

3.       The ideal spouse takes care of their partner . With hectic schedules and endless to do lists, The ideal spouse sets aside time for their partner and their family to connect on a consistent basis.  They recognize and understand their spouses needs and tries to meet them through open communication, empathy and showing them unconditional love. There is open and honest communication between both spouses, even if it is in writing. By acknowledging their daily frustrations and challenges and also sharing the positive and humorous moments together, creates a deeper bond and understanding of the other person. We all change with time and experiences and being intune with the spouses life outside the marriage and feelings help the spouses connect and take care of each other in the most beneficial way.

 

As humans, we crave connection and communication with others, especially with those we share our daily life with and have committed a lifetime to be married to them. The ideal spouse connects with their partner and has their best interests in mind at all time and enjoys seeing them smile and be happy.